we need to have a consent talk about consent and nonconsent over the internet, with sexting, with photos, whatever.
the internet blurs a lot of lines, it makes it easier for predators to exploit young people. that is not the victim’s fault. josh macedo is a 24 year old goddamn adult. he’s a “”“feminist”“” and he couldn’t fucking pick up shit from his feminism 101 tumblr about what constitutes consent and not? how power dynamics work? what the fuck?
we talk all the time about body/physical signifiers of nonconsent/consent. not-fighting does not mean yes. staying silent does not mean yes.
this is good. these are so important.
but we need to talk about, you know, not sending explicit messages and EXPECTING SOMEONE TO SAY NO and asking for consent afterwards.
no, fuck that. you get enthusiastic consent outside of the convo. outside of you trying to manipulate and exploit a younger person. consent that is gotten via manipulation and sending jarring, explicit messages/pictures is not consent.
i’m so fucking pissed.
you find out someone’s age? you don’t retort with, ‘what’s the age of consent?’ you say, ‘oh my fucking god, i am so sorry. i am scum. i shouldn’t’ve bombarded you with these messages. god, this was handled so poorly. i am so incredibly sorry.’
you don’t continue to send a fucking picture of yourself.
you don’t wait for someone to “”“tell you”“”” you were out of line.
you check yourself.
you keep yourself in line.
that isn’t anyone else’s fucking job.